Change your face

The actor, Mickey Rourke, sent me some advice yesterday via You Tube. Sure, it wasn't addressed to me specifically, it was an interview, but it spoke to me. He answered vaguely questions about early experiences that shaped his inner world. Things like the loss of his father at age 6, familial alcoholism, a step father and his unacknowledged violence. He didn't use too many words, but his pain was apparent. The interviewer talked about his success in Nine And A Half Weeks which pushed him to the forefront and made him the leader of the Brat Pack. A respected actor and a sex symbol. Very soon after acheiving this status, he began the work of throwing it away. When he had burned all his bridges, he returned to boxing for a few more years of punishment. Then he paid a professional to rearrange his famous handsome vulnerable tough guy's face with what soon became known as one of the more unfortunate plastic surgery mishaps. Mr. Rourke illustrated how no matter how high you fly, how many accolades you receive, how much you win or lose or suffer or repent, you've internalized the belief that the person looking back at you from the mirror is not worthy of love and should be destroyed. I understood that and remembered a lot of broken mirrors. He talked about the love of his life in similarly few and painful words. They were two damaged people who recognized each other, he said. The interviewer suggested that he'd never gotten over her, and Mickey agreed that he'd likely never feel that way about someone else again. Another example of how the mirror mechanism works and another resonance.